“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.” … Jim Morrison

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What if you could be a friend to everyone you meet?

A favorite surf spot

My youth was a time of great friendship. Southern California in the 60’s and 70’s was a celebration of sunshine and surf, laughter and smiles, fragrant sunsets and a heckuva good time.

It could never have been what it was without my friends.

Last week one of those friends passed away. Many years had gone by since I’d seen him, far too many, and I was glad that I could return to Los Angeles to offer my condolences. Seeing his father was a lesson in sadness. Alcohol had taken his youngest son, and he was angry that his paternal admonitions had had no effect. Why hadn’t he listened? Why did he refuse to accept help from those who loved him?

When I saw his picture displayed at the memorial service I remembered the free-spirited adventurous young man who many times led the way, and encouraged exploration. He was happy, he was alive, he embraced his freedom, with or without his friends.

What if he had listened? Would he still be alive?

At the end of the day everyone must make their own decisions. Everyone must pursue their own freedom, and the best that we, who are left behind, can do is respect their individuality. People are who they are.

I don’t have to tell any of you how to maintain friendships. Everyone has experienced heartwarming hugs and tearful goodbyes. I simply want to pass forward my sadness at the loss of an old friend, and perhaps after all is said and done, you might ponder the opportunity to consider each person you meet to be a friend.

Would the world be a better place? I don’t know. I imagine it would, but then I can only be certain that this moment is real, and what comes after remains unknown. Each of us pursue our own paths, and while they endlessly merge with those of others, they remain unique to our own perception of freedom.

May yours always be one that keeps you among good and loving friends.

Be thankful for the goodness in each and every person.

Understand that each person’s perception of the world is their own.

Cry when your heart breaks, and then reassemble the pieces.

Offer your love and friendship to everyone you meet.